What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

I checked his voicemail and changed his myspace to make other girls that like him make them think he dont want them to ever talk to him. But everytime he asked me in my face I always lied to him making it bigger then it seems. But I get upset sometimes when these girls from his job calls him and send him messages on his page and send him text on his phone. when i find that disrespectful to me so i want to know how can i gain his trust back and how to get him to listen to my concerns about these girls and not seem to be insecure about the situation.

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

You need to decide what kind of a relationship you want to have.

Do you want one where you have to manipulate things, put words in his mouth (or website), and lie to him .... in order for him to be yours?

Would you rather have a relationship where he chooses to be yours and to love you? Would you like a relationship based on trust and integrity?

What kind of a relationship you want should determine how you act. I suggest that you own up to things and aim for communication and honesty.

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

What you did was wrong...lying to his face.....but he is wrong by disrespecting your feelings by allowing other women to call him and text him...when there isn't trust in a relationship...there is no relationship.....and if he can't respect your feelings...why would you want to marry this chap in the first place? How would he feel if you were the one that were allowing other men to call and text you all the freaking time and that you completely ignored his feelings about the situation?

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

You need to grow up. If you have to check up on him all the time and you do not trust him...you have no business being engaged to him! If he is so involved with other women then he has no business being engaged. You two need to split up. If this is going on now it will only get worse as times goes by and much worse if you marry. You both are liars and sneaks. This is not how mature adults live their lives. You both are totally disgusting to each other.

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

Oh my God! And you say these girls act disrespectfully? First: I don't blame you for doing those things you did if your fiance gave you the motiv, but is HE who is disrespectful, he contact women in his space and girls from his jobb call him home???

You are wasting your time, I hade a man once who did all the time like that. Do you think he changed even though I cryied, begged to him to stop? NO ! And your fiance will not change, that is an ilusion. He is just making you go down in your selfesteem, and act like a criminal, looking his mail, space and phone.

God! woman! Stop and think if is worth to live like you do, allways afraid to loose him.

Why do you need him? What does this man give you? Is it something that you can find better alone? When a woman is not afraid to loose a man is when tha things turn around, is then when a man becomes afraid to loose her.

I pity you because you are wasting precious time instead of bilding up your self esteem and feeling prod of yourself , I'm sure you have very god things in you to feel proud but this man is just pulling you down and making you feel wothless.

Have a talk...with yourself and decide what do YOU need.

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

In my estimation Myspace accounts are for the young and unattached. Once you are engaged, these accounts should be closed. You are off the market. If he continues with his account, don't lie, just tell him you both need to grow up, act mature, and, in preparation for marriage, erase your contact with on-line singles.

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

If you don't trust him, don't marry him.

Do you want a whole life of feeling this way? Things don't change when you get married, except, that the things that seemed little (both good and bad) get huge. They are like elephants in the room.

Other than talking to girls, does he give you any reason to be jealous? If he does, get out, he won't change. But if this is all in your head, then you need to deal with why you are so terrified of him hooking up with someone else.

Think about these things and then tell him the truth. Explain your reasons, and ask for forgiveness.

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

hmm difficult

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

You do not trust this man and should not marry him. Already you are beginning with lies. You wanted to check so why not be up front about it. Are you trying to catch him out in something? Do you have real reason to think something is going on? You do know that mistrust breeds mistrust? You do know that you snooping on him is just as wrong as whatever you think you are going to find. Remember people that go around looking for trouble always find it.

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

tell him the truth and grow up. be ready to deal with the consequences. why be with someone you need to spy on and lie to? if these things bothered you, you should have told him before taking any action.

******** mature married people can have my space accounts, who said evrything has to chance once you are married? just have fun while keeping your partners feelings respectfully in mind.

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

Girls from his job should not be calling or messaging him.That is disrespectful.You have a right not to trust him.They need to know that he has a girlfriend.

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

There is just all kinds of stuff going on here!

You are insecure *and maybe you should be) but don't want him to know it so you check his myspace and mesages and liw about it...and you want to be his wife.

Stop it! Be honest. Tell him you are insecure and do not like these contacts with other girls. He will be your husband, he might as well get used to providing you with security. If you are too insecure or whatever, he may break it off...yes, I know that is what you are afraid of. Better to find out now than after marriage.

It is not "wrong" to be insecure, it is the way you are. Some women need to be provided a higher level of security than others, no crime in that. And the man you will marry needs to know that. Concealing your true feelings and lying are not OK.

What do you do when you have lied to a fiance about not checking his voicemail messages and myspace?

You are a door mat and your fiance knows it. That's why he continues to do the stuff he does. He knows he can get away with it. He's not right but you are not right by spying on him also. It sounds like you are playing teenage games here. Time to grow up and be a real woman.

If you can't trust him in this relationship, you need to move on and work on your self esteem. Get yourself together before things get even worse!